Would you suddenly scramble up your list of requirements that a partner must meet in a pub? Probably not. Still, this happens regularly on dating apps. With these seven tips you will find love faster with digital dating.
Online dating tips
The smartphone has changed a lot. Where you used to have to go out to find love, nowadays 13 percent of Dutch couples met online. Online dating can definitely work, but you have to be a bit handy with it. Therefore, keep the following tips in mind.
Take your time
Just like in real life, a first impression is extremely important, if not more important when you meet someone through a dating app. So take the time to make your profile as strong as possible, without exaggerating.
There are no generally applicable rules. Above all, your profile should reflect who you are. There is no point in attracting as many matches as possible if during dates it turns out that they had completely different expectations based on your profile. However, try to look good: after all, you would also do this when you meet someone in the pub.
2. Photos: don’t make a scavenger hunt
Make sure that potential dates immediately see what you look like. Ideally, you use all the possibilities to post photos, showing your body and face. Pay particular attention to good lighting and post nice photos of, for example, your hobbies or a trip you recently made.
It is also important not to have too many photos with others: it should not be a quest to find out which of the five you are. Finally, photos must of course be recent.
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3. Leave something to the imagination
With every dating app you have the option to compose a text. This is the ideal space to show your own personality. Make sure you don’t write down a list of requirements, because that doesn’t seem very inviting to potential dates.
Instead, try to get people interested in you. So don’t say you have humor, but let it shine through in the text itself. That way, others know how you are put together, but don’t make a book out of it.
Be original
In addition, it is important to be original. ’90 percent of people say they love food, music and friends, so you won’t stand out with that, ‘said Zainab Mohiuddin, a dating coach specializing in Tinder.
So highlight things that make you special, such as an interesting hobby, a long journey or a nice anecdote. She also thinks you should end with a good bouncer, such as a question. “I recently came across a bio of someone who said he is the world’s best thumb wrestler and was open to challengers,” said Zainab. So tempt people into a conversation, and possibly a date.
5. Start the conversation
Tinder has now made 20 billion matches, but it is not known how many couples have actually started the conversation. There is nothing wrong with being the first to send a message: you are both looking for at least a nice date, otherwise you would not be involved in online dating.
According to Zainab, it is useful to mention something in your first message that stands out about the profile of the other person, such as a hobby, appearance or journey. “Avoid standard opening lines like“ Hey, how are you? ”, Says the dating coach. Rather say something about clothing style or why someone chose to volunteer in Tanzania.
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6. Don’t be too picky
A big risk with online dating is that you will become too picky. “There used to be less choice”, says dating expert Tosca Sel. “You chose a peer from your town or city and if you liked each other, you got married.”
“Now you have 200,000 options under one button. So you can really like someone, but still dump them because you think their socks are ugly. ” No one is perfect, so don’t expect this from your match on Tinder or any other dating app.
7. Failure to shoot is always wrong
You can’t always be lucky. As mentioned before, people can appear differently online than in real life, so it is better to find out as soon as possible. So avoid sending messages to each other for months without making an appointment.
“Online dating is like writing a cover letter: your ultimate goal is to be invited for an interview,” says Zainab. Finally, try to have a little fun meeting: not only more fun for yourself, but it also makes you more attractive.
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