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Good conversation starter tips
Are you fully engaged in online dating, but finding it difficult to start or keep a conversation going? If you did all the wrong opening lines like “did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” if you have worn out without success, you might want to try something new.
Especially on dating apps, it is sometimes difficult to keep a conversation going. You cannot tell from someone’s body language or facial expression how someone really reacts to what you say. That is why you better be prepared. We’ll give you some conversation starter tips for specific dating apps and some general tips that will come in handy everywhere.
Tinder talking tips
Every dating app works a little bit differently. It therefore often differs per app how you can best start a conversation. Tinder is all about someone’s profile.
Ask or say something about his / her profile or bio
Take a good look at the profile of your match: what do you notice? For example, does that person have a nice photo together with an elephant? Then you can ask if that is his or her favorite animal, or where this person was when he or she met the elephant.
Is there anything interesting in your match bio? For example, which series he or she likes? Then tell us what you thought of that series, or ask why it is such a good series. In this way, you show interest in the other person, which makes him or her more likely to respond.
Bumble talking tips
At Bumble, women always start the conversation. In general, men are more likely to start a conversation with women, which is why Bumble turns it around. As a result, women only talk to men they really like. Of course, it can be a bit tricky if you, as a woman, never start a conversation with a man. A good conversation starter tip is to come up with a good icebreaker.
An original opening line
With the standard questions such as ‘how are you?’ and ‘what kind of work do you do?’ is basically nothing wrong, but it quickly gets boring. If you spend a lot of time online dating, you may get such questions a few times a day. The conversation should also not look too much like an interview.
So come up with an original opening line. It can also be really bad, so that it becomes funny again. But the most important thing is to elicit a positive response. For example, say something like ‘my love for you is greater than for pizza’ or, especially nice for dating apps: ‘we passed the meat inspection, congratulations!’.
Happn talking tips
At Happn you will meet people in the app that you have also encountered outside. For example, if you saw or spoke to each other on the train, and you both installed the app, you can find each other again. But what do you say?
Ask about his / her taste in music
On Happn you can link your Spotify account with your Happn profile. This allows people you have met to see what music you like to listen to. If your match has this too, it is an opening to start a conversation.
For example, do you see an artist that you also think is very good? Tell your match that he / she has good taste, and ask if they have heard the new album or been to a concert. With a little luck you have such a good conversation.
General conversation starters at a glance
Of course, the conversation starter tips above work for other dating apps as well. Whichever dating app you choose, there are a few ways to start a conversation in any chat.
Ask a special or interesting question
A question is always a good way to start a conversation. Instead of the standard questions to get to know each other better, a good question can be a fun and original way to find out what kind of person someone is. Moreover, with a standard question you quickly come across as boring. Especially on dating apps like Tinder or Happn, this works better than asking how someone is doing.
The stranger the question, the more you notice it and the more likely someone is to answer. For example, ask, “Never use Google again, or never take your shoes off again?” or “what would you like to ask an alien?” Also answers to a question such as ‘what are you most proud of in your life?’ or “how would friends describe you?” say something about the person in question. In any case, make sure that your question is an invitation for the other person to tell something about him or herself.
Start with a game
Another original conversation starter tip is to start the conversation with a game. For example, start ‘do, dare or the truth’ when you have a match. You can also give two options each time, from which the other must choose one.
In addition, you can, for example, have the other person guess something about yourself, after which you can tell whether that is good or not. This way you can quickly start a conversation about a certain choice that someone has made. You can then build on that.
Finally, be yourself
It may be a bit corny, but the most important thing is to keep yourself in a conversation on a dating app. Do not try to say standard things, but show a lot of interest in the other person. By looking closely at someone’s profile you can estimate to a certain extent what someone likes. It takes some time, but that is guaranteed to take you a lot further.
That also works the other way around, of course. Your match will also want to show interest in you. Therefore, make sure that you have a nice profile yourself. Not only with photos that show you well, but also that show something interesting. A nice bio is also a must-have. It is definitely worth putting in some extra time.
More dating tips
Do you want to know more? iPhoned gives you several tips on dating. For example, we explain how Tinder works and how you can increase your chances. We also tell you which apps help you plan a date. Want to read more about dating apps? Also take a look at our opinion on the responsibility of dating apps.